8 Ways To Boost Confidence

Growing up I had a lot of insecurities, and ultimately lacked confidence in myself. I did not believe I was good enough for anything, and always tried to get people to accept me without necessarily understanding me or what I was really about. Instead of fitting in I became a misfit. I always felt like something was wrong and people were looking at me and judging me. It was a nightmare feeling that way about myself because it restricted me from fully enjoying life and pursuing my dreams and goals. When I wanted to do something, I always thought of what people would say and what kind of reactions I would get. It's normal to think of what people are going to say or how they are going to react to whatever you are doing. However, when you only focus on the negative reactions instead of the positive ones then it becomes a problem. That was me. I realized that not having confidence in myself was restricting me from realizing my full potential. When I say confidence I do not mean self conceited arrogance. I mean looking into the mirror and seeing someone capable of achieving greatness. Someone who is beautiful from the inside out. Someone unique and likable. I used to look at people who were confident and admired how they carried themselves. How they went about doing everything with so much ease. I then decided that I wanted to be that too! So, I did a bit of research on how I could build up my self confidence. I spoke to some individuals, read magazines and did Internet research. Wow, I found a plethora of information, including that some people are born with it and that some like myself actually learn to build it up. Wow, so what I can say is if you were born with it good for you! But if not, here are some guidelines that you can use to boost your confidence and ultimately transform your self image for the best.

1. Love yourself. In short, when you love yourself you will feel comfortable in your own skin. You will also feel complete and at ease. Yes, you might seek to grow or improve yourself, but ultimately you will be content with who you are.

2. Do not compare yourself to other people. This is one of the main reasons why a lot of people lack confidence in themselves and in who they are. We are all unique and special. When you decide to pay attention to yourself instead of wishing that you were someone else you will feel happier and you will find things about yourself that you appreciate, thereby building your confidence.

3.Focus on the things about yourself that you love, and find beauty even in those that you don't. Most people have one or two things about themselves that they do not like. But instead of thinking and focusing on the negative, focus on the good things and you will feel happier.

4. Be your own definition of beauty. Society has set standards of what beauty is. And because we are unique, some of us do not fit that description. Then we start to feel like we are not good enough. Just because you do not fit the societal definition of beauty does not mean that you are not beautiful. Make yourself the standard of beauty and your confidence will be boosted for certain.

5. Look for your best qualities and nurture them. Find ways of improving those qualities. Appreciate them and find ways of making them shine through. Not only will you appreciate them but other people will too.

6. Improve your image and how you present yourself to others. Wear clean clothes, look clean and smell nice. People will be drawn to you like magic, and then you will feel wanted and your confidence will be boosted too.

7. Surround yourself with positivity. Be around positive people who build you up and encourage you instead of pulling you down. Avoid negative and hostile situations.

8. Do not embrace negative comments  that people make about you.

There you have it:) I hope these ideas will help you boost your self confidence! Feel free to leave comments or reactions bellow. XO